Two kinds of “what if”
We all have imperfect information about the future.
Uncertainty is an undeniable companion in life and work. Do people like me? Is this the right job for me? Will I hit that goal? Will [fill-in-the-blank situation or relationship] work out like I want it to?
We often fill in the gaping hole of certainty with “what-if” scenarios. I’ve encountered two primary kinds of “what if”:
The limiting “what-if” hijacks our fear to keep us thinking small. These worst-case scenarios include the greatest hits, “What if this goes wrong? What if I’m seen as a failure? What if no one like me?” While these may serve as fodder for personal change, more often than not they cause us to retreat from creativity confidence, contrarian thought, and meaningful work.
The expansive “what-if” asks what’s possible and then gets 3 sizes bigger. It poses, “What if we tried…” “What if we wanted to reach 10x our goal?” “What if we reframed this situation?” “What if this were radically successful?” The expansive “what-if” sees opportunity instead of threat—it causes us to lean in rather than play defense. **We become more creative, more bold, more thoughtful.
Think about that big project or idea in your life. What if you chose a new “what-if”?